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🔥 "She’s Not Herself Anymore, and I Don’t Know How to Help"
If you’ve noticed changes in your partner since the birth of your baby, you might be feeling confused, helpless, or even scared.
⚡️ She used to be full of life, but now she’s withdrawn and distant.
⚡️ I don’t know if she even loves being a mum—she seems exhausted and overwhelmed all the time.
⚡️ I want to help, but I don’t know what to say or do. What if I make it worse?
If these thoughts sound familiar, you’re not alone. Postpartum depression (PND) affects 1 in 7 women, and partners often feel lost in how to support their loved one. But there’s hope—and your support can make a huge difference in her recovery.
What Postpartum Depression Looks Like From Both Sides
From Her Perspective:
💔 "I feel completely alone, like no one understands what I’m going through."
💔 "I should be happy, but I feel empty and disconnected."
💔 "I love my baby, but I don’t feel like I’m doing a good enough job."
💔 "I don’t want to burden anyone, so I just keep it all inside."
From Your Perspective:
💔 "She’s pulling away from me, and I don’t know why."
💔 "She won’t talk about how she’s feeling, but I can see that something is wrong."
💔 "I feel like I’m walking on eggshells—she criticises everything I do. I'm doing my best, I don’t want to upset her more."
💔 "I miss the person she used to be, and I just want to help her feel better."

Recognising PND as a real, treatable condition (not a personal failure) is the first step toward helping her heal.
What You CAN Do to Help:
🌞 1. Acknowledge Her Feelings Without Trying to “Fix” Them
It’s natural to want to find solutions and make things better, but what she really needs is to feel heard and understood.
Instead of saying: "You should be happy—we have a healthy baby!"
Try saying: "I can see that you’re struggling, and I want you to know that I’m here for you."
Instead of saying: "Just think positively—it’ll pass."
Try saying: "I know this is really hard. You don’t have to go through it alone."
🌞 2. Encourage (But Don’t Force) Her to Get Support
Many women feel guilty or ashamed about their struggles, so they may resist reaching out. Let her know that seeking support is a sign of strength—not weakness.
You might say:
"I’ve been reading about postpartum depression, and I found some natural treatments that might help. Would you be open to trying something together?"
"There are therapists and hypnotherapists who specialise in this—maybe talking to someone could make things easier for you?"
At The Transformation Practice, I offer gentle, holistic support for postnatal mental health, including:
🌻 Hypnotherapy to reprogram negative thought patterns
🌸 EMDR to process trauma and anxiety (included in Hypnotherapy)
🌺 Closing the Bones massage & ceremony for emotional healing
🌼 Postnatal doula services to support emotional well-being
🌹 Couples Emotional Intimacy therapy to help you both navigate this transition together
🌞 3. Take on More Responsibilities Without Keeping Score
PND can make even simple tasks feel overwhelming. You can support her by lightening the load without expecting anything in return.
👉 Offer to handle nighttime feeds or give her time to rest
👉 Take over household chores so she doesn’t feel the pressure
👉 Encourage small acts of self-care ("Why don’t you take a bath while I watch the baby?")
👉 Even small acts of kindness and reassurance can make a huge impact.
🌞 4. Look After Your Own Mental Health Too
Watching someone you love struggle is hard. Many partners of new mums feel pressure to be strong, but your well-being matters too.
✨ Are you feeling overwhelmed?
✨ Do you need someone to talk to?
✨ Could couples therapy help you both feel more connected?
At The Transformation Practice, we offer support for both partners—because postpartum challenges don’t just affect mums. You can book a free discovery call with Sinead today to find out how I can support both you and your partner with. a range of holistic therapies.
How My Offerings Can Help Your Partner (and You!)
My tool kit of natural, holistic therapies help mums overcome PND and reconnect with themselves, their baby, and their partner.
💕 Hypnotherapy – Gently rewires the subconscious mind, reframing overwhelm and replacing negative thought patterns with confidence and peace.
💕 EMDR – Included as part of psychotherapy toolkit for hypnotherapy. "Eye Movement Desensitising Reprogramming" is a proven therapy for processing trauma and emotional pain without having to relive it.
💕 Closing the Bones Massage & Ceremony – A beautiful postnatal ritual to release emotional trauma and restore balance. Celebrating and honouring the transition to motherhood.
💕 Couples Therapy – Helps partners navigate the postpartum period with more understanding, communication, and connection.
💕 Postnatal Doula Support – Offers compassionate, hands-on support for new mums and their families.
Final Thoughts:
You’re in This Together
Postpartum depression is not forever, and with the right support, she can recover. Your role is incredibly important, and simply being there, listening, and encouraging her to seek help can make all the difference.
Ready to help your partner heal? We’re here for both of you.
🌺 Book a free discovery call with Sinead today

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